I had a beautiful friend of mine contact me this morning telling me about an incident that happened last night. I won’t go in to detail about it just that a family member had been unsupportive an disrespectful about her parenting.
Which got me thinking about a few times over the past few years when I have had family members and close friends do this to me.
I feel as a mother there is nothing more upsetting and hurtful than when someone insults your parenting. It may not be intentional and it could also be a passing comment but it hurts nonetheless.
I truly believe we are all trying to the best we can with what we have. And nobody really knows or understands what happens behind closed door, so they are really not into a position to judge. At the end of the day we all try to do what works best for our family. We may not always get it right but we are trying.
I read this great metaphorical story that involved a toothpaste tube and how if you squeeze if all out you can’t ever put it back in. So just like words once they are out they can’t go back in.
I do believe though if you think you may have insulted or upset someone what you do next can change the whole situation.
So I’ve decided I’m going to embrace and support parents and caregivers out there, and let them know when they are doing an amazing job. Because you never know they may just need that boost of confidence to get them through the day.